Sex: why do young people become more interested in threesomes?

Twenty years ago, The swinging and threesomes lifestyle attracted mainly 45-55 year olds. Today, this practice also seduces the 20-30 years old. Young followers told us how it transformed their sexuality, and so much more.

Summer 2017, at the table of a wedding dinner, at the edge of a Corsican beach. A handful of young couples exchanged with enthusiasm about their common passion: Threesomes. Alcohol helps, tongues are loosened. “The first time, my girlfriend told me about it,” says Mathieu *, one of the groomsmen, 30, based in the Hauts-de-Seine and from Agde. by women and wanted to try a new experience. ”

Influenced by the clichés heteros, one would tend to think that it is rather the men who ask their partner to try this type of practices which “out of the ordinary”, but, according to our panel of young couples, this are often the women who take the first step. “The first time we went to a kinky club with my girlfriend, we met a bisexual, we talked, then the girls kissed before taking a shower, they did not care about me until the girl in question asks my girlfriend if she could kiss me too, “says Jeremy, a native of Metz.

These two are not unique cases. “More and more thirty-year-olds let themselves be tempted, and we are slowly getting rid of the clichés that want to spice up their life as a couple,” confirms Marjorie Cambier, a clinical psychologist and sex therapist.

Dating 2.0

What give a new youth to this practice once reserved for more mature couples and who suffered from a cheesy and not really sexy image. If the older generation was content to frequent certain addresses regularly (in Paris, Les Chandelles or Moon City), millenial culture requires, young couples also rely on specialized sites to accelerate this type of meetings. “For this very connected generation, it is tempting to take a tour, out of curiosity, before taking the plunge, or to easily find a partner as soon as you feel the desire,” continues Marjorie Cambier. Feeld is the most popular site, the libertine equivalent of Tinder or AdopteUnMec. A third of its new registrants are between 20 and 30 years old – against a majority of people in their 40s just a few months ago – and represent a new generation of porn-rich, highly influenced by their codes, which trivializes triolism and other gang bangs.

So how does one become a swinger?

Some start to break the routine, others to “save their couple“, as strange as it may seem. But be careful not to cross the course to please the other, or, on the contrary, to place his desires in the foreground.

The impulse must be common. “Every time we go to a swingers club or a private party, we go to two, otherwise it’s not play. I sometimes do not sleep with other women, but to take pleasure watching my girlfriend make love with different partners, “says Mathieu. For Manon, 28, her partner, addicted to sex sulphurous for ten years, swinging has become a way of life: “It allows me to avoid the boredom of a classic sexuality. love to many, with dozens of people at the same time (in libertine clubs, some rooms can accommodate up to thirty people, ed.) I have already used accessories such as sex toys, handcuffs or whips, most of the time with women, but I do not like the SM, everyone has to set their limits.

” In Jérémy’s daily life, too, this sexual practice had an impact, allowing him, among other things, to renew his circle of friends: “I changed some of my habits … Before I loved traveling, today, every summer I’m going down to the south of France, to Agde, to find my libertine friends there. ” But most of her relatives are not aware: “I never dared to talk to my family members, for example, they are not open-minded, they would not understand, some of my friends besides turned the back. ” If his ranks are renewed, the taboo of libertinage, it remains timeless.